YoM/Lab Leader Application

Year of More leadership has helped me to create a team culture FAST including bonding with new members of the team, Creating cohesion in a group, really listening to people on my teams, training a group to lead itself. And the big lesson is to choose to belong, again and again, to any team I’m in.

For me, it’s a focus for my growth and development as a leader and personally for my own growth. Each lab I do I feel more alive and engaged during it and a reminder of the level of living I want to do in all my relationships. My experiencing self loves lab and the aliveness that we all experience together. It’s a weekly immersion in the life I want to live more and more

I have found that leading YoM allows me to keep the assignments concsious. I feel inspired by my group and hearing others share on Tuesday nights and practice being.

As a Year of More leader... I have learned so much about emotional maturity, and as I am with people I relate to so much, I realize more and more that not only are they OK, but I am OK. My self-compassion has gone way up. My ability to be with myself when triggered or anxious is much stronger. As I build my capacity to be with people where they are at and influence them towards being more coachable has tremendously helped in how I deal with people at work. My capacity to facilitate in general at work is consistently growing as I lead and am supervised in Year of More leadership. As a father of young adults, I am learning so much about how to share more vulnerably with my kids. My natural tendencies have been to share my wisdom and tell them what they should be doing, and that did not work! I am having the relationships I want with my family as I sharpen the tools I have been learning, and now teaching as a Year of More leader.

As a Transformation Lab leader, I use all that I’ve learned, and am still learning, and share all of me and my experience. This makes me feel so satisfied as I give of myself for the benefit of others.

The two main benefits for me is the that: I have strong confidence in my ability to facilitating a group, and that leading people to their emergence is very, very fulfilling. This is a great space to learn about yourself while you are supporting others.

My Transformation lab members who are doing their parent work inspired me to go deeper into my relationship with my dad. I got to know him at a much deeper level and shared with him the secrets I had hidden about myself. He shared with me where he had similar experiences, and now we have a solid foundation for us to continue this brand new, deeper relationship.

The main things I have gotten from being a lab leader?

• Calling process as I see it in the group
• Attuning to group dynamics
• Orienting people to yearnings/feelings
• Noticing my own yearnings/feelings in a group
• Doing my own personal growth assignments

Lab leadership has helped me learn how to:

• Build an effective team culture, where team members learn to be accountable
• Understand the effect I have on an individual in a group and how to get out of my own way
• Learn how to manage chaos toward growth for individuals and myself
• Help group members understand their limiting beliefs, where they came from, and how to move past them

It has also helped me understand what it looks like to have compassion for yourself as a child while moving forward in the adult world. In the realm of transference and projections which effects all human interactions, I have a much greater understanding of where I’m “hooked” (have a projection or transference) with others, how to separate how I feel toward them, and move toward the outcome we both want.